Lately, I've been thinking about how I want to be treated as a friend. I want to be talked with, go hang out with good kind friends, treating each other with respect, laugh, sing, love our quirks AND our strengths, love even when mistakes are made and makes things difficult.
That said, the other day I saw a post on FaceBook by Will Wheaton regarding toxic people. He basically said to cut the negative people out of your life. Which I have been doing. I am tired of the amount of energy it takes to be constantly on call. And then they hurt you.
My best intentions always tend to have my accepting nature taken advantage of, and I end up being a scapegoat, used and hurt, then finally I end up doing things I don't wish to do. Nothing is worth the pain and stress of a toxic person. They don't give, they take. They don't treat people with kindness.
Dejunking my life of toxic people has been the best thing. My life is calmer, peaceful, more loving and me not being stressed out.
Then, there is the other part of this... being kind. I know I am not the most patient person on the planet and I have my moments of anger, but I find that being kind, doing things for people helps me to get out of my funk. I don't do these things for gain etc... I do it because I truly believe in the gift of giving. I tend to do better when I think about other people than myself. Those times makes my day better and brighter. I can walk with my head a little higher, shoulders straight.
So if you pay it forward by being kinder, that is the best gift ever.
Happy Hannukah, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!